For those parents with two kids under the age of three, how do you deal with the mom guilt from not being able to spend as much time with the older sibling? I feel like I am frequently saying, "In a minute bud", "When I'm done feeding your brother", "I can't right now buddy","You're going to have to wait a bit".
I find it's even harder because my second is such a high maintenance baby. He is always being fed, or screaming. He will only take a nap if he is snuggled up on me. If I put him down anywhere (play mat, swing, jolly jumper, crib) he just screams. And I don't mean normal baby screaming, I mean the loudest high pitch scream one could produce. He will scream and scream and scream until he can't breathe and starts turning purple. It only stops if Mommy picks him up. No one else. He will fuss and cry with anyone else except Mommy. It is the single most frustrating thing in the world. I feel like I can never get anything done, or spend any time playing with my oldest unless I just put the baby down and let him scream for a few minutes.
I just feel so bad for my older child. He's either being told to wait or listening to continuous screaming. I feel like having a second child this close might have taken away from some of his childhood experiences. I know later on once the baby settles into a routine, starts walking, starts talking, and can play with the toys with him they will become the best of friends.
Until then, wish me luck. Two is much harder than one.
-A.
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